Cultivating Our Relationship with Ourselves
We are constantly aware of the needs of our loved ones— emotionally, physically, psychologically, etc.
…And this is absolutely beautiful. What a gift it is to have this awareness and compassion that propels us into deep, long-lasting relationships with others! This connection is vital for co-regulation, empathy, and meaning— among so many other important qualities.
But sometimes we get stuck in a cycle of looking at ourselves in relation to others— focusing on what we can do for them, how we can serve them, how we make meaning in relation to them.
You see, when we get stuck in this cycle, we can end up losing ourselves. By putting others first, we’re inadvertently declaring that our worth is primarily based on another human being’s perspective of us or what we can do for them.
This is when it’s imperative that we come back into our relationship with ourselves.
So in the spirit of Valentine’s Day, we’re taking a somewhat unexpected turn in discussing how to cultivate our relationship with ourselves… because, what could be more loving than that?
How do I engage in my relationship with myself?:
If you feel resistance to focusing on yourself, acknowledge this. Ponder why that may be the case. Accept that it can be hard to pay attention to yourself while also understanding that this relationship is intrinsic to your overall health and wellbeing.
Plan some intentional time to get to know yourself on a deeper level. This can look like:
Meditation: Try a meditation from our wellness community, True Core Collective.
Breath work: Get to know your nervous system a bit better through engaging your breath. True Core Collective is talking all about breath work throughout the month of February.
Therapy: We are passionate about traveling alongside our clients in their journey to increased self awareness and upward movement.
Woo yourself. Okay, maybe sounds a little bit cliche, but have you tried it yet? The more we fall in love with ourselves, the more we are at ease with ourselves. We can soak up and enjoy time with ourselves while also learning to better understand ourselves, including our needs, dreams, and desires. And when we are paying attention to ourselves, we are suddenly able to better facilitate relationships with others.